Liberating Change Work Approach
I support you in change and development
That may include overcoming:
Internalizing: anxietizing, depressing, compulsing, phobicing, …
Externalizing: angering, unskillful habits, addicting, …
Converting: psycho-physiological conditions like chronic pain, fatigue, allergies, …
Finding growth in:
Development: adult developmental psychology, metacognitive skills, blind-spot-discovery, peak performance modes, …
Unusual conditions/situations
Clearing the view
Stuck problem: When we hold our hand in-front of our eyes all we see is darkness.
Psychological insight: Dropping our hand to the right distance, revealing all the possibilities that are available in the direct environment.
Liberating insights: Expanding our view to be like the vastness of the sky where totally new paths become available. Our problems self-liberate like clouds and unconditional OK-ness, confidence and wellbeing shine forth.
If this resonates with you, I invite you to find out if we are a good fit to work together.
Improving body-mind
The field of psycho-neuro-immunology shows the interconnectivity of mental and physical wellbeing.
Integrating these insights for your specific situation is what I am helping you with.
Finding the right approach for you
Scientifically: When working with your physiology we use the best principles science has to offer.
Individualized: When working with the mind, considering your individual situation and tailoring a solution to that is the best way forward.
Science around psychological interventions, the Dodo-bird verdict, supports that no standardized treatment works for all but working with your individual meaning-making is what makes the difference. Thus, we find the most suitable approach that works for you. However, with all approaches we rely on a metacognitive framing which makes any approach more effective.
Transformational change - developing new capacities to flourish
Working transformationally is about making objective (~seems like not you) what is currently subjective (~seems like you), at an information processing level. This is part of the advanced metacognitive and developmental approaches that bring totally new capacities online to handle much more complexity in life. It is the highest personal growth opportunity for most individuals.
Below you can read about three consecutive subject-object stages as described by Robert Kegan, their capacities and what common challenges may look like.
Stage 3: Socialized Mind
Capacities:
Allows you to see your own needs and wants as objects instead of being fused with them
Ability to have your sense of self co-defined through your relationships
Shared meaning and ethics
Common challenges:
Conflict between your desired self-image and the perspectives of significant individuals in your life
Worry about social acceptance
Over/under-responsibility taking
Ineffective boundary setting,
Communication problems
Fear of criticism and rejection
Imagine a single water drop that may have its internalized structure like the rules and values of a group but it easily pops when it gets into contact with anything else.
Stage 4: Self-Authering Mind
Capacities:
Not being fused with your relationships but to make relationships objective
Capacity to form relationships and define the terms while maintaining individuality
Creating experiences shaped by personal principles
Effective, intra-system problem solving
Constructive boundaries while still considering the point of the other
Common challenges:
Not living up to your own personal principles
Internal clashing of values, in particular internal ethical dilemmas that seem to tear your sense of self apart
Meta-systemic problems appear unworkable
A wave contains many drops but has some movement behind it (the principles) that organizes all the drops in one direction. But if two principles move in opposite directions, the organization of the wave breaks down.
Stage 5: Self-Transforming Mind
Capacities:
Moving beyond principles, identities and being able to see the whole selfing-process objectively
Recognizing the fluidity of all meanings of all systems, allowing to hold contradictory systems simultaneously without needing to resolve them and embracing “not-knowing”
Deeply held assumptions can be challenged and much reactivity drops away
Common challenges:
It might be hard for others to comprehend this stage, making it a “lonely place”
Most individuals that glimpse at this meaning-making have a tendency to fall back into previous structures without being aware of it
Within the ocean of metacognitive awareness , waves (identities, principles, believes, values) are just transient appearances of the ocean as a never ending display of the ocean to reveal the most fitting shapes for the current situation.
Thus, we can summarize liberating change work as:
Transformative: Working developmentally and fundamentally upgrading your basis of operation can be highly rewarding due to increased capacities
Liberating: The liberating insights can help overcome many challenges at once and reveal unconditional OK-ness as well as confidence
Individualized: Following the evidence and finding a suitable approach for your personal situation can help overcome your specific problem
Integrative/Scientific: Taking psycho-neuro-immunology to heart and combining physiology plus psychology for mind-body wellbeing helps you flourish